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Thank you for your very honest question. This is, obviously, a sensitive topic. But you might take heart in the fact it is not all that uncommon an issue among couples. In this case, it sounds like you have great respect for your wife but something is getting in the way of your enjoying physical intimacy.

In other words, you have a difficulty and then bad feelings about the difficulty. Try to give yourself a break with the latter, at least. It does sound as though there is some unconscious obstacle to enjoying closeness with your wife, whom you obviously love very much. Again, this frequently happens with married coupleswho discover a difference in sexual preferences or desires or level of intensity, etc. What is edgy or exciting to one may be frightening or alienating to the other, and so on.

Were you aware of this before marriage? Is it possible that, as with many young men, sex was too important in earlier relationships, so that you consciously decided to put sexual attractiveness or compatibility on the backburner with this relationship? That too much emphasis on sex or something else about you might turn her off? Do you compensate in the marriage with use of pornography or other self-satisfying methods?

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If so, what would happen if you took a break? Would sex with your wife become more viable or enticing? Did or do you struggle with sexual insecuritiesas many people do but are reluctant to talk aboutwhich makes sexuality difficult or anxiety-provoking, even emotionally dangerous? Was there guilt, possibly, over making sex a priority earlier on, or guilt or shame now about sexual enjoyment? They may be ashamed of their sexual interests. Or they have developed a habit with porn this may not apply to you that they are ashamed of.

Again, you are the one faking orgasm—so that, I surmise, your wife will not be disappointed or unhappy. I wonder, in other words, about your sexual pleasure and happiness, which from what I gather is not as important as the other factors that make you crazy about your gal. If so, why? Perhaps your pleasure would also make her happy. Is it that she is initiating them?

Is there something emotionally or symbolically uncomfortable about it? Some assertive people like to be more submissive or remain assertive in bed, and vice versa. Our choices come in so many different shapes and colors, choices that can mean very different things to a partner. What is enticing to some may be threatening to others, which can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings if not looked at in an empathic way. To my mind, the most important thing is finding a way to communicate some of this—after your own self-examination and reflection, probably—with your wife, to avoid build-up of resentmentanxietyor other emotional distancing.

I might also take a look to see if there are other habits or methods of self-care that create distance between you and her.

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You might even want to seek out a couples counselor to help with this; even a few sessions can be helpful in assisting the communication and compromises necessary in this area, as with so many others. It sounds like you care about your wife very much, which I found touching. I can only imagine she will be equally touched by your sincere effort to maintain or even build upon your connection with her, as she obviously means a great deal to you. Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. How sad- this is usually the opposite with the wife not wanting to have sex, so to hear this from the male perspective is pretty eye opening.

Its the same with my wife, I would rather ejaculate to porn until the time comes when i do desire her, or someone els. Same here. I love her way too much. I respect her way too much and this one thing is killing me inside. Think about it. I could have written that letter… My wife is none of the things that make up my type: tall, athletic, blue eyed, etc. I just saw the film Shallow Hal on TV and wished I could be hypnotized to see my wife as hot as others might….

Will I ever be able to go past this?

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Maybe you should seek The Light rather than accepting your fate in the darkness. Jesus Christ is the answer. God bless. It sounds like you are living in darkness in the here and now! You are keeping her from finding someone who can love her completely and desire her the way she deserves. I am in this situation now. I am at a loss of what to do.

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Have the two of you tried to sit down and talk this through? Couples have differences all the time in every department imaginable.

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I am sure that this is one that could be worked through if you both took the time and effort to work on it together. So sad. Hi, Dana… I was reading comments and saw yours. I wanted to try to explain why I married my wife, despite not being all that into her physically. It was a bit like those ideas that seemed like the right move at first, but after the whirlwind of planning and seeing the happiness it brought to her and her family, I felt as if there was no turning back.

Before she proposed I would just cheat with girls that were curvy or filthy in bed. I thought I needed a good girl at home but wanted a freak in the sheets not the streets. I really messed up. I met my current relationship online. I fell for her before we physically met. Weve been together for ten years. I feel I have to explain this a little. I am not now, nor have I ever been attracted to cellulite. I cant see it or touch it without the urge to gag. I had a best friend when I was younger,on an emotional level a boyfriend. I probably got along with him better than anyone in my life.

He was amazing! I miss him. I have been in relationships where I am physically attracted… None of them compared to him. Sex lasts for at best 5 minutes, then its done, but an emotional affair can last a lifetime! Thank you!! Sex is not everything and I understand that but how could you ever have real and lasting happiness with someone that you are not even physically attracted to? Sex is not the glue that holds a relationship together… but it sure can help at times!

Rowena, you are right; sex is not everything, unless you are not getting any! You say… why did they even get married? There are still some of us that wait to have sex after marriage and then find out they are not sexually compatible. Then What??? Three solutions: 1. You cheat, 2. You stay, deal with it and be unhappy, or 3. You divorce. I agree, some of us do wait and I understand.

I waited till I married my husband to sleep with him. It was good when we would make love but just not enough for me.

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He is a sweet, soft guy and I like it a little more on the wild side.

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